Useful Resources

The books and organisations referenced have been recommended as helpful resources by people we have worked with – including people who have offended online and their families and friends.

The resources listed below can be used in conjunction with the self-help materials found on this website, but individuals may find some more helpful than others.

This list is not exhaustive – if there is something which you have found helpful which is not on the list, please get in touch and we can update our list. You can contact us anonymously via email: help@stopitnow.org.uk


For people who have accessed sexual images of children:

Name

Author

Details

Books

The Porn Trap

Wendy Maltz & Larry Maltz

Maltz, W., & Maltz, L. (2008). The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography. New York: Harper Collins Publishers.

A book around the destructive power of instantly available online pornography to help you understand and move on from online sex addiction; includes real-life stories.

Cybersex Unplugged

Weston Edwards, David Delmonico & Elizabeth Griffin

Edwards, W., Delmonico, D., & Griffin, E. (2011). Cybersex Unplugged: Finding Sexual Health in an Electronic World. www.livingalifeilovebooks.com.

A workbook designed to provide resources for individuals struggling with their online sexual behaviour.

Cybersex Unhooked

David Delmonico, Elizabeth Griffin, Joseph Moriarty & Patrick Carnes.

Delmonico, D., Griffin, E., Moriarty, J., & Carnes, P. (2001). Cybersex Unhooked: A Workbook for Breaking Free from Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior. Gentle Path Press.
Also available to download for free online: www.internetbehavior.com/services/cyber_unhooked.htm

A workbook designed to provide resources for individuals struggling with their online sexual behaviour.

In The Shadows of the Net

Patrick Carnes, David Delmonico & Elizabeth Griffin

Carnes, P., Delmonico, D., & Griffin, E. (2007). In The Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behaviour. Hazelden Information & Educational Services.
A book to equip readers with specific strategies for recognizing and changing compulsive sexual behaviours; includes real-life stories.

Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction: A comprehensive guide for people who struggle with sex addiction and those who want to help them

Paul Hall

Hall, P. (2012). Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction: A comprehensive guide for people who struggle with sex addiction and those who want to help them. UK: Routledge.

This book explores the latest scientific understandings and research into why things such as pornography and cybersex can come to control some people’s lives, along with techniques for stopping compulsive behaviours.

Websites

Stop it Now!

www.stopitnow.org.uk

 

Stop it Now!, a campaign run by The Lucy Faithfull Foundation, works with those worried about their own sexual thoughts or behaviour towards children, including those with concerns about their online behaviour. Stop it Now! operates a confidential, anonymous, Helpline: 0808 1000 900. The Helpline operates between 9am-9pm Monday-Thursday, and 9am-5pm Friday.

Unlock

www.unlock.org.uk

 

Unlock is a charity which provides information, advice, training and advocacy, dealing with the ongoing effects of criminal convictions.

 

Your Brain on Porn

www.yourbrainonporn.com

This site focuses on porn’s effects on the brain.

Covenant Eyes

www.covenanteyes.com

 

Covenant Eyes is an ‘Internet Accountability and Filtering’ Software. The software sends the selected monitor a report of the websites/search terms you have used.

Organisations  

Sex Addicts Anonymous

www.saa-recovery.org.uk

SAA is a group-based support network, to help people find freedom from addictive sexual behaviour and promotes recovery from sex addiction.

Sexaholics Anonymous

www.sauk.org

SA’s primary purpose is: “to stay sexually sober and help other sexaholics to achieve sobriety”.

The Lucy Faithfull Foundation: Inform Plus Course

www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/inform_plus.htm

 

The Lucy Faithfull Foundation (LFF) runs the Stop it Now! Campaign. The LFF also runs a course for arrested internet offenders, called Inform Plus. Inform Plus comprises 10, weekly, 2.5 hour sessions focusing on understanding offending behaviour and preventing relapse.

 The Counselling Directory

 http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/

This website explains what counselling is, and provides practical information on what type of counselling you may need and where to find it.

BACP

www.bacp.co.uk

British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) provide information on their website regarding therapists who specialise in this area.

The Law Society

www.solicitors.lawsociety.org.uk

 

You can locate a solicitor who specialises in Criminal Law via The Law Society website.

Hudson Centre

020 7493 4488

Sexual addiction counselling and therapy in London.

College of Sexual Relationship Therapists’

020 8543 2707
www.cosrt.org.uk

COSRT is the UK’s leading organisation for therapists specialising in sexual and relationship issues.

Relate

0300 100 1234
www.relate.org.uk

Provides counselling, support and information for relationships.

Tavistock and Portman Clinic

www.tavistockandportman.nhs.uk/care-and-treatment/portman-clinic

Offers specialised long-term psychoanalytic psychotherapeutic help to people who suffer from problems arising from delinquent, criminal or violent behaviour or from disturbing and damaging sexual behaviours or experiences.

Helplines

Stop it Now! Helpline

0808 1000 900

Free to phone from a landline; you can call us confidentially and anonymously. The Helpline operates between 9am-9pm Monday-Thursday, and 9am-5pm Friday.

Samaritans

08457 90 90 90

“If there's something troubling you, then get in touch.” Calls will cost 2p per minute plus your telephone company’s access charge.

MIND

www.mind.org.uk

 

MIND is a mental health charity; 0300 123 3393.

 

Can you help us with important research?

We are supporting research being carried out by Nottingham University. Researchers at the university are looking for UK males to take part in an important online research survey. The survey seeks to understand what influences the behaviour of people who access sexual images of children online. The survey is completely anonymous and you will not be asked for any details that could identify you. Completing the survey is easy and should take no more than 10-15 minutes.

To complete the survey, please click here

 

For Partners/ Friends/ Family members:

Name

Author

Details

Books

Understanding Child Abuse

Terry Philpot (2008)

Philpot, T. (2008). Understanding Child Abuse: The Partners Of Child Sex Offenders Tell Their Stories. London: Routledge.  

 

The Boogeyman Exists; And He's In Your Child's Back Pocket: Internet Safety Tips For Keeping Your Children Safe Online, Smartphone Safety, Social Media Safety, and Gaming Safety

Jesse Weinberger (2014)

Weinberger, J. (2014). The Boogeyman Exists; And He's In Your Child's Back Pocket: Internet Safety Tips For Keeping Your Children Safe Online, Smartphone Safety, Social Media Safety, and Gaming Safety. CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform.

A book to help you keep your children safe in a 24-7, always connected digital society.

Partners may also find it useful to read the books listed in the ‘internet offenders’ resources section.

Organisations

The Lucy Faithfull Foundation: Inform Course

www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/files/Inform_Leaflet%2012NOV14.pdf

The Lucy Faithfull Foundation runs a course called ‘Inform’. Inform is an educative course designed to offer information and support to the partners, relatives and close friends of people who have been charged in relation to child pornography accessed via the Internet.

Stop it Now!

www.stopitnow.org.uk

 

Stop it Now! is a campaign run by The Lucy Faithfull Foundation. The Stop it Now! Helpline provides advice, information and support for partners of those who have accessed sexual images of children online. The Helpline is free to phone from a landline, and is completely confidential and anonymous: 0808 1000 900

The Helpline operates between 9am-9pm Monday-Thursday, and 9am-5pm Friday.

Relate

www.relate.org.uk

Provides counselling, support and information for relationships; 0300 100 1234

BACP

www.bacp.co.uk

British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) provide information on their website regarding therapists who specialise in this area.

Covenant Eyes

www.covenanteyes.com

Covenant Eyes is an ‘Internet Accountability and Filtering’ Software. The software sends the selected monitor a report of the websites/search terms the person who is being monitored has used.

Helplines

Stop it Now! Helpline

0808 1000 900

Free to phone from a landline; you can call us confidentially and anonymously. The Helpline operates between 9am-9pm Monday-Thursday, and 9am-5pm Friday.

The Offenders Families Helpline

0808 808 2003
www.offendersfamilieshelpline.org

 

This organisation has information for families on all aspects of the criminal justice system in England and Wales from arrest through to release (Freephone)

Scottish Prisoners’ Families Helpline

0500 839 383 

For Scottish prisons only.

Samaritans

08457 90 90 90

“If there's something troubling you, then get in touch.” Calls will cost 2p per minute plus your telephone company’s access charge.

 

For parents/carers of children:

Name

Author

Details

Books for Older Children

Who Wnts 2 No? (Cybernuts)

Steve Barlow, Steve Skidmore & Geo Parkin (2009)

Barlow, S., Skidmore, S., & Parkin, G. (2009). Who Wnts 2 No? (Cybernuts). Telefonica O2 UK Limited.

About the dangers of sharing personal information on-line/ not trusting everything you see or read on the internet.

The Boogeyman Exists; And He's In Your Child's Back Pocket: Internet Safety Tips For Keeping Your Children Safe Online, Smartphone Safety, Social Media Safety, and Gaming Safety

Jesse Weinberger (2014)

Weinberger, J. (2014). The Boogeyman Exists; And He's In Your Child's Back Pocket: Internet Safety Tips For Keeping Your Children Safe Online, Smartphone Safety, Social Media Safety, and Gaming Safety. CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform.

A book to help you keep your children safe in a 24-7, always connected digital society.

Organisations/ Websites

CEOP

www.ceop.gov.uk

 

Child Exploitation & Online Protection Centre.

You can anonymously report online, via this link, if you have concerns about someone acting inappropriately towards a child online.

CEOP site for children and parents

www.thinkyouknow.co.uk

 

A website for children (aged 5-7, 8-10, 11-13 and 14+), parents and teachers about how to keep safe online.

Childnet

www.childnet-int.org

Information for children and parents about keeping safe online.

Parents Protect!

www.parentsprotect.co.uk

 

Parents Protect! is an information and resources website which aims to raise awareness about child sexual abuse, answer questions and give adults the information, advice, support and facts they need to help protect children.

NSPCC Online Protection Resources

www.nspcc.org.uk/services-and-resources/research-and-resources/

 

A link to NSPCC’s Research and Resources section, where you can find child protection and safeguarding information, advice and research around areas including online abuse, sexual abuse, child sexual exploitation and cyberbullying.

Covenant Eyes

www.covenanteyes.com

 

Covenant Eyes is an ‘Internet Accountability and Filtering’ Software. The software sends you a report of the websites/search terms your children have used.

Helplines

Childline

0800 1111

Children can call Childline for free about any worry they have. They can also email Childline for advice at: www.childline.org.uk/Talk/Pages/Email.aspx

 

 

Other relevant organisations:

Name

Author

Details

Reporting Concerns about Online Material

Internet Watch Foundation (IWF)

www.iwf.org.uk

 

 

Make confidential and anonymous reports, online, about criminal online content

Virtual Global Taskforce (VGT)

www.virtualglobaltaskforce.com

VGT investigates suspicious behaviour online with or towards a child. You can use the ‘Report Abuse’ button to report suspected inappropriate sexual behaviour.

 

FREE CONFIDENTIAL ADVICE

0808 1000 900

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