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Welcome our Family and Friends section. 

This part of the site is for wives and partners, parents, adult family members and friends of people who they suspect or know may be accessing indecent images of children online, or engaging in other inappropriate sexual behaviours involving children. 

It contains our Family and Friends Forum, a safe space to share your own experience, and to read about the experiences of others. To post in the forum you'll need to register first, but you don't need to give your name to register to use the site.  

Our aim

  • To provide the kind of information that family members need in order to begin to make sense of an extremely challenging situation. The discovery or suspicion that someone close to you is looking at sexual images of children is usually very upsetting and people worry about the consequences not just for that person, but for themselves and their families. 
  • Don't forget, you can of course talk to a trained operator on the confidential Stop It Now! helpline, or use our secure messaging system.

This website also offers free, anonymous self-help section for people who are concerned about their own online behaviour. It provides information about illegal online images and the law, and helps users to identify and explore their problematic use of the internet and to manage their behaviour.

There is also a section for practitioners working in the field of child protection.


If you are struggling to work out what to do next, then this short film may help you.


Partner Testimonies

“I will never forget Michael’s words to me: ‘I have been addicted to pornography for ten years, and I have been viewing illegal images for about two years.’" This is one woman's account of how one woman coped after discovering the truth about her former husband. 

To read this testimony in full, click here. You will also find testimonies from other partners and ex-partners on our main partner testimony page



An opportunity to help us!

Whenever possible, The Lucy Faithfull Foundation and Stop It Now! conduct research in order to develop our knowledge and understanding with regards to all areas related to the prevention of child sexual abuse. As opportunities to participate in our research arise, we will post an advertisement below. If appropriate, and we believe the research findings could teach us something important, we will also advertise opportunities to participate in research conducted outside of our organisation. Your participation is incredibly helpful and we are extremely grateful for your time. 


Research conducted by the University of Huddersfield 

Rachael Thompson from the University of Huddersfield is inviting you to take part in an anonymous research survey.

The purpose of this research is to investigate the relationship between morality and crime, while also examining public perceptions of different types of offenders.

Anybody above the age of 18 and from the general public is welcome to take part in the study, regardless of whether they have or have not previously committed any criminal act. 

If you have any questions or concerns, please contact Rachael Thompson directly (  

Please click here if you would like to participate. 




We would like to thank all those who have contributed to the material within the Stop It Now! Get Help site, with particular thanks those who attended the focus groups.

Important note: the photographic content within this section is for illustrative purposes only. All persons featured are models © iStock and Shutterstock.


  • The information provided throughout this website is intended for information, self-exploration and self-help only. It is designed to increase awareness in people who may feel that they have a problem with illegal Internet images or have thought about accessing them but not already done so. The information contained in this website is not, and should not be taken as, a substitute for professional advice and/or treatment.
  • Although the content of the self-help exercises is based on existing research, this research is on-going and the authors would not wish to make any claims about effectiveness.
  • All the information contained on this website is intended to increase awareness of a problem, or potential problem, with regard to a sexual interest in children and is not designed to form a diagnosis. Anyone who feels that they may have a problem in this area should seek professional advice from a qualified person.
  • The Stop It Now team accepts no liability for claims by, or damages of any kind whatsoever to, users of this website. This also applies to decisions or actions taken by any individuals on the basis of the information contained on this website.
  • The information and materials, unless stated otherwise, are copyrighted by Stop It Now and are intended solely for the users own use.
  • The contents, design and format of this website are under the ownership of Stop It Now and must not be reproduced or distributed without prior permission.

Your use of this website constitutes your agreement to the provisions of the disclaimer.


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